Good Friend vs. True Friend
By: Derek Warren (My version of the poem by Neil Diamond)
A good friend will mail you a get well card when you are sick or injured.
A true friend will visit you and hand it to you in person.
A good friend will have sympathy for you when they see a bully harassing you in any way.
A true friend will confront the bully, and will make sure it never happens again.
A good friend will answer your phone calls at their convenience.
A true friend will talk to you anytime you need them.
A good friend will believe rumors people spread about you or himself.
A true friend will respond to gossip by saying something like “We’re rubber and you’re glue”.
A good friend will want gifts from you at his birthday party.
A true friend will think of your presence as a gift.
A good friend will come to your wedding ceremony.
A true friend will be your groomsman or bridesmaid.
A good friend will expect you to change for them.
A true friend will always like you for who you are.
A good friend makes jokes about topics you find sensitive.
A true friend knows just what makes you angry, and will never “go there”
A good friend will be with you until graduation.
A true friend will be with you until the end.
I wanted to write my version of this poem because even though I have written about my experiences with “friends” in the past, I still do have problems deciphering who my friends are. The experiences I have written about, and have told other people have made me realize that “good friends” are people who come and go, but “true friends” are people who will always stick with you. I know people will make comments and ask questions like this:
I have also come to realize that “true friends” are rare. They only come once or maybe twice in a lifetime, but that doesn’t mean one should be discouraged when they have a bad experience with a so called “good friend”. I have learned that there are jerks everywhere you go. It is best just to ignore them and go on with life, which I know it can be very hard for somebody with Asperger’s Syndrome. I speak from the heart when I say that. However, it is something you have to do. You will be a very unhappy person if you let rude people get to you all the time. I still do struggle with this. It’s not fun to be unhappy, because many of them end up becoming criminals.
I hope this inspired you to be more open minded and understanding of some of people in your life who are not who you consider “true friends”. It does feel like the world is small, but it’s really bigger than you think! I will have more posts coming soon.
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